7 Reasons Why You Are Nervous
Why am I so nervous for no reason? What cause me to be nervous?
There are many reasons why you are nervous but one thing is for certain.
Feeling nervous can hinder your progress and stop you from living the life you want.
Core of Nervousness: Flight / Fight Mechanism
Racing heart. Sweaty hands. Butterflies in stomach. Tension headache. Shaky feelings.
These are all the symptoms of being nervous. What this means is that you have entered flight/fight mechanism.
Whenever your subconscious mind perceives a threat or danger of any kind, it responds with the flight/fight mechanism.
Remember that we are not aware or conscious of the threat or know the reason why we are feeling the way we do.
Our evolutionary instinct automatically tries to protect us by either running away or fighting head on.
While it may appear unreasonable for you to be nervous, your subconscious mind knows the reason why.
Here are 7 reasons why you might be nervous.
1. Because You Care
Do you have a big project coming up? A public speech? Interview? Are you starting something new? Or talking with your crush?
It’s nerve wrecking. We might feel a bit nervous every time even though we are ready for it.
You are nervous because you care about the outcome and the results. It is important to you.
But along with caring for the outcome, there’s a fear of how things will work out. You don’t want anything to go wrong.
For example, you might be nervous when facing a test. If you did not care, it will not affect you.
But you see it as important and, therefore, there is a chance for pain or pleasure. Because you know that the tester ultimately decides whether you are good or not, the tester has an advantage to make you feel better or worse.
We are ingrained with approval since our childhood. Our parents, mother and father, can have the greatest influence and importance in our life.
So any attachment in which you care for something, you will be a bit nervous when handling it.
When you are nervous because you care of the outcome, then you will need to learn how to detach from the outcome while trusting that the event will turn out as you hope it would be.
2. Unfamiliar Territory
How comfortable are you when you do the same thing everyday? Likely you are very comfortable with where you are and what you do.
But once you step out of your comfort zone, you have entered unfamiliar territory.
One of our greatest subconscious fear is the fear of the unknown.
This is something you are not used to, a new situation you do not know how to handle, etc.
If you don’t know how to deal with unfamiliar situations, then you will not be comfortable and you will likely be more nervous.
Fortunately, you don’t have to experience a lot of different situations in order to be calm and confident in new situations.
As long as you learn how to be calm in new situations, you can be comfortable in many unfamiliar territory…but not all situations.
3. You are programmed to be nervous
A nervous reaction can also be a learned response.
If every time you are met with a challenging situation and you choose to be nervous, then your subconscious mind will use the same response automatically the next time you meet a challenging situation.
The first time you choose to become nervous or let nervousness control your actions, it becomes easier to activate the same nervousness more and more.
If you were to be aware of the sensations of nervousness and choose to respond in better ways, then you can train yourself to automatically react in that way each time.
4. Diet related
If you have been neglecting your diet, then you can be sure that nervousness and anxiety will rear its head out.
Proper nutrition gives energy to the brain. But if the brain doesn’t have adequate sleep, exercise, and diet, then it won’t function as you expect.
This is due to chemical imbalance in the brain.
The subconscious mind says, “I’m worried about my body, I don’t think I can handle the outside world either.”
Look at what you are eating on a daily basis and ascertain whether your nervousness has to do with diet related problems.
5. Not staying in the present
Our expectations are powerful. It can influence how we think about our current circumstance.
This is especially true for those who think a lot, over-analyze, or worry about the future and the past.
If you entertain the idea that the future is going to be bad or something terrible will happen, then you will generally have anxiety.
Our future is the road-map to where we will go. When we do not see a pleasant future, our body resist to move forward because of the impending pain.
On the other end, getting stuck with the past stops you from living in the present. You typically think about how your own experience convinces you that you shouldn’t try.
The present is where we need to be. While we can look into the past to improve who we are or to seek the future to move us forward, it is really our present thoughts and actions that let us live life without nervousness.
Sometimes it’s difficult to turn our focus onto the present when we are currently seeing the future or looking back at our past failures.
6. Lack of energy
Energy is what makes you healthy, vibrant, responsive, and confident.
For example, if you were feeling good about yourself and full of energy, then interacting with people won’t be an issue.
But perhaps on a different day you don’t feel good about yourself and you feel a bit sick, then anxiety can show up when interacting with those same people.
The more energy you have the more you can do. The better you will feel. And if you feel good about yourself, then you also feel better about what you are doing.
7. Medical Related
The last reason for nervousness and anxiety is due to psychological illness and medical issues.
This, of course, is beyond the scope of this article.
Nervousness is Perception
While some reasons for being nervous comes from diet and medical reasons, most of them are within your control.
What nervousness really comes down to is your perception.
How you perceive the event and what it might mean for you.
With that mind, you can change how you feel and transform nervousness into calmness.
Hypnosis can help in shifting the subconscious and automatic nervousness into calm reactions.